Why Leading Well Requires More than Vulnerability

Vulnerability is a victory. This is the anthem for 2019. It's everywhere.

Brene Brown's visit to Australia in August attracted huge attention. The Richmond Football Club's monumental win in the AFL Grand Final (yes, I did have to mention it ) reportedly had a strong connection to Brown's work with the team. 

Sporting clubs, corporations, for-purpose organisations - we are all obsessing over our vulnerability in leadership. It's a good thing in my opinion.

Recently, I wrote on LinkedIn about the first 100 days in the life of new CEOs. As a result, I had a direct message from a woman about her experience. She wrote:

"I once told my former boss that the way to build trust ... is to ...(be) vulnerable and you can't be cynical ... because you have to put aside ... cynicism to be genuine and helpful." 

This is a powerful observation. I'm struck by how vulnerability leads us to drop our doubts and distrust - and moves us towards real human connection. 

But where does vulnerability start from? Step 1 in your vulnerability walk is being kind to yourself. 

Leading psychologist and author of Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, Kristin Neff, suggests it's time for us to move away from self-validation, and towards self-compassion instead. 

So, if you're convinced vulnerability is the key to your leadership, you might like to try being a little kinder to you.

Have a practice and get vulnerable and embrace being kind to yourself. I suspect you'll be a good person to be around. And that's a real victory.

Grow well.

Lacey Yeomans